We’ve all heard of the book “Why men love bitches” and maybe if your a bitch like me you’ve been pondering whether or not you should read it.
Tbh i’ve wanted to read it for a while but just cbf, but i’ve finally read it and thought i’d share my thoughts with you girls (incase you also cbf to read it).
So why do men love bitches? And do they really?
Well it’s not actually about being a bitch (bad news for me) – it’s more about being your independent self – having friends, a career and not being boy-obsessed and doing everything for someone that isn’t worth it.
So here’s some “tips” from the book
- Don’t compete with other women
This is one of the first things the book talks about. Basically if a guy brings up other women act/be unbothered – because you don’t need to get jealous of other bitches – you’re THAT bitch.
This tip is 100% accurate and great to apply to your life – both in your dating life and just in your normal life.
Firstly if your seeing a guy and he keeps bringing up other girls – he’s doing it to play with you and make you insecure so don’t feed into it (and honestly drop him sis).
And Secondly, if your someone who gets super jealous of successful/pretty girls then you need to STOP. We’re all about girls supporting girls over here, so if i see a girl killing it in her career or with bomb ass hair i’ll appreciate it rather than being jealous.
And leading into the next point..
2. Act like a prize and he’ll think you are one
So relating to the other point – you don’t need to see other girls as competition because you’re a prize too!
Basically the book talks about how other people value you based on how you value yourself.
So, if you’re super insecure and think you suck – those thoughts rub off onto other people. And not to mention if you’re someone who constantly complains to others to seek validation or just because your annoying then PLEASE STOP.
No one wants to hang out with people who are a drag and keep going on about how much their life sucks and how they hate their boyfriend and how they’re fat. Like we’re all trying to have fun here and your negative energy will rub off on others.
Also those negative thoughts will manifest if you keep repeating them. Instead be positive and make improvements in your life to be more confident in yourself.
3. BE INDEPENDANT
So – don’t be a needy bitch and for the love of God DO NOT CHASE MEN.
I feel like this point is kind of self explanatory, but if you want a partner who’s actually like a good, cool person and not an emotionally abusive piece of shit, then you should be an independent woman.
And being needy will only attract dumb men that play on your insecurities.
Also i know the whole ‘feminism split the bill’ thing is really in but i’m not about that life. A man should still be a man and if he actually wants you he’ll chase you and show you that he appreciated your time – don’t settle for anything less (remember you’re a prize).
So girls if someone treats you like shit – they’re so not worth your time.
MY THOUGHTS
okay so i gave my thoughts above but just a little ~recap~.
All in all, i think this book is awesome and full of great advice.
Although its positioned as a dating advice book, it’s so broadly applicable to your everyday life, and although these tips will help you get a guy actually worth your time it’ll also improve your career, friendships and self-worth.
So don’t wait around for a guy to put your whole life into.
Instead, focus on your career, doing things your passionate about, having fun with friends, and being confident in yourself – and when you meet the right guy he’ll see how great you are and you won’t attract any losers!
I definitely recommend you girls check out the book for yourself – it’s full of great advice and don’t let the bad ass title mislead you – it’s all about self love.
Until next time,
xoxox – miumiuandthecity





















